As part of my mission to recover from my recent nervous breakdown I decided to give something back to the community.
I used to work as a nursing home administrator and spent a lot of time around elderly dementia patients and their loved ones. Since this experience i have a massive place in my heart for folks in nursing homes. Ive seen them deteriate and the pain and torment they have been through. As the admin I didnt get much time to spend quality time but always popped round to say hello and give up some of my time to have a chat with them and talk about anything. Even though their memories were limited I tried to ask them questions that might drum up some good memories from there past.
A few of my favourite ladys and gentleman in the home will always be in my heart and taught me a lot about compassion and life.
Frank who was a lovely gentleman in his 90s he used to talk about working in the mines and about his car which was a Saturn, he said it was really fast and sporty. I was told recently that Frank has passed away which was sad news. His son and daughter were daily visitors and did everything they could for him.
Pat, she’s a cheeky one as im sure her granddaughter would agree. She always joined in on any activities and had a cheeky giggle. Her granddaughter always had a story to tell when she had taken here out for a few hours. Pat liked to wind her up and would do funny things like shout on the bus saying she had been kidknapped and then start laughing. Fantasic lady.
Dorothy and Ursula both of these were true ladies. They loved singing and dancing. Dorothy was a rum one too and was sometimes cheeky but in a lovable way.
There were loads more I was close too and do miss. But will always have a special place in my heart and will never forget.
The Good Deed
I saw an old friend that was struggling to find someone to wear a costume for the nursing home she works for. They were having a open day to celebrate the 25th Anniversary of the home and wanted one of their special guest appearances to be the Warrington Wolves rugby teams mascot Wolfie.
As part of my mental health improvements I thought this would be a excellent opportunity for me to give something back so I wholeheartedly volenteered to dress up for them.
It had been a chilly week, mid October we didnt expect it on the day but the weather had taken a vast turn from cold to warm. The sun was cracking the flags and the temperature had risen to about 18 degrees Celsius. I thought ‘im going to melt in that costume’.
I got myself sorted and headed down to the home.
The outside had a huge notice of the event in hand and there were cars parked along the road as well as the car park. A local community police van was also there and the Mayor of Warringtons car.
The front door was coded but a visitor who knew the code helped me inside. I looked around and it was bursting with happy faces.
The room where all the entertainment was on was full and all the residents wore sparkly party hats and where dancing and clapping along to the singer that was entertaining them.
I found Lucy who I had arranged to come through.
We went into the managers office and she opened this massive red back and there it was! The official rugby mascot outfit, the same one that goes out on the pitch itself. WOW!! Im a fan of the team so this was something special.
The outfit consisted of 5 parts, a sleaveless romper suit with grey fury legs, a top which was mess on the chest and gret fury arms with paws at the end ( my arms didnt fit it fully and i had to ruffle it up a bit at the gloves, no one wants to meet a floppy handed mascot) then the rugby tshirt and shorts and then this humongous Wolf head which i stuggled to out of 😂.
The music stopped and it was time for me to do my bit and walk into the spotlight. Very nervously i was guided into the room. Everyone clapped and smiled and the kids were just as excited as the adults. The music was still playing so i started to have a little boogie stood there, heart going 10 to a dozen!
Then it was time to have a million photos taken with residents, staff, guests, children and the Mayor and police.
Wow it was hot but I carried on.
We walked into the quiet room and i met a few more residents and had photos taken.
Then we visited the residents who were bed bound. This was the most tear jerking for me. I shook there hands and had photos. One of these ladies was giggling like a school girl with excitement and kept tight hold of my hand. I cant tell you how emotionally happy i was hidden inside there knowing that this simple ask of kindness had such a positive inpact on these lovely folk.
Then it was time to say goodbye, so i was led back into the main room. By this point i was sweating so much i felt like i could pass out any second but i kept my strength up for this last 5 minutes. I waved and shook hands and imitated my goodbyes ( wasnt allowed to speak) and left, making my wau back to the office to peel it all off me.
I really do mean the word ‘peel’! I was dripping and ready to drop. It was a relief to take the huge head off and get some air to my face and lungs.
I got changed, sprayed that much deodrant im suprised it didnt set the alarms off and packed up and went to find Lucy.
They had bought me a bottle of fizz as a thank you but i told them to add it to the raffle.
I honestly meant ut when i said the pleasure was all mine. To see them all happy meant more to me than anything. I would do it again in an instance.
I know how much it meant to all of them and im proud to of battled against my nerves to do this for them. It was a truelly terrifingly exasperating 30 minutes but i did it!!
I think everyone should give some of their time up to give to others.
The elderly have such a bit part of my heart because they helped create today. The things we have are because they fought for it. WW1 and 2, Womens rights, slavery laws, you name it, its down to these guys that are at the last stages of their life now. Nothing we can do could ever repay them for what they fought for and achieved for us but if we all do a little bit to make their days at least its something.
Thanks for reading
Ps will add more photos when i get them sent to me 😊